Friday, June 21, 2013

Five Min Friday- Rhythm

Time for FMF over at lisa-jo bakers blog Todays word is Rhythm

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Someone once told me relationships are like a dance. Some times you lead, sometimes your partner leads. But what if you ain't got no rhythm?

Back in the dating days with my hubby, our "dance" looked like this: inseparable for 2 months, take a "break" for 2 weeks, back together full time for 2 weeks, break for 2 days, back together for 2 more weeks.... you get the picture. We were all over the place. We had no rhythm. We each wanted what we wanted and would do what ever it took to get it- even if that meant stepping on each others toes.

Rhythm was hard for us to find- we kept dancing around each other- fighting for the lead. Finlay, we stopped took a real break and tried again. Relationships are hard. You can not have two leaders. Two people leading means no one is following. I choose to follow my husband. When I decided to trust him and let him lead, he got the confidence to do so.

Now our dance is full of early mornings and late evenings. Crying babies and laughing children. Bills and work and laundry....life. We have the best dace of all now. Life together.

8 comments:

  1. I love the image of the dance! SO true. Brilliant! Visiting from FMF.

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    1. Thank you! Thank you for stopping by!

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  2. I, too, like the imagery of the dance and the revelation that you were both fighting for the lead. How often we wives do that - fight for the lead and ruin what could be a beautiful dance. Thanks for that reminder! :)

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    1. Yes, I think about all that I have now (mostly 4 great kids!) and what I would have ruined had I not given up the lead!! Thank you for stopping by!

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  3. I've been married nearly 25 years and I still fight for the lead at times! Have a blessed weekend.

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    1. I think that it is a struggle for us all, no matter how long we have been married! Thank you for stopping by!

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  4. Loved how you and your hubby have settled in to such a beautiful rhythm. Great post! ~Tanya, visiting from FMF.

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    1. Thank you for stopping by. We do have a good rhythm now, although haveing a new baby has mixed things up a bit!

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